Being There for our Children!

6 Jul

Each of us desires to be the very best parent we can be! We want to be effective whenever our kids need us most! And because each life brings it’s own challenges, we are certain to be called upon to step up to support our children. Some of these challenges are more painful than others. Some can bring us to our knees! Other challenges teach us more than we ever anticipated!

My journey as the mother of a transgender adult child was one such experience for me. I knew no other transgender folks. I knew no other parents of transgender kids. I felt alone. I feared for my child’s health and future. Initially I groused,  “I did not sign up for this,” but it soon became clear that this would become one of the most important learning experiences in my life. I learned that ‘unconditional love’ is not as automatic as I had assumed. It turned out that I was much more judgmental (yikes!) and critical (sigh!) than I imagined or hoped myself to be. These realizations would later come to inform future interactions and encounters while requiring much needed self-reflection.  My son’s gender identity turned out to be a tremendous gift to me!

Below is a link to a great article with sound and practical suggestions. Please take the time to click on the link to learn more!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/when-your-adult-child-breaks-your-heart/201703/strategies-supporting-transgender-child

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2 Responses to “Being There for our Children!”

  1. Priscilla Sprieser July 7, 2017 at 5:34 pm #

    Wonderful article-thank you! We are grandparents to a 25 year old trans granddaughter who is currently living with us as she establishes her career. It has not been easy. Her Dad and stepmom are very supportive but her mom and maternal grandparents are not.

    • transmom July 7, 2017 at 10:14 pm #

      Thanks, Priscilla! What a lucky granddaughter you have! Your love and support are an amazing gift to her! You are “showing up” everyday for her and demonstrating just how much you believe in her. THAT IS HUGE!! Thanks for writing in- other parents can pass along your thoughts- that while this has not been easy for you, you have chosen to persevere!!! Proud to “know” you! Keep hanging in there- you are AWESOME!!!!

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