Very Helpful Video for Parents New to their Transgender Child!!!

16 Nov

I loved this honest video (link below)! These open and honest parents of a young adult who transitioned while in college, share their experiences: the difficulties, the challenges, the ups and the downs!

I believe every parent finding their way during this passage with their child (especially those with teenagers and older), can benefit from watching this video! Transitions are NOT easy…and many times our children become frustrated with us along the way.

WE GET TO HAVE OUR OWN PROCESS AND EXPERIENCE as our child transitions! It is always helpful to be reminded that, as parents, it will not necessarily be easy no matter how much we love and support our children!! We need to be ready to experience a myriad of emotions: fear, anger, surprise, fierce devotion, as well as joy when our more confident and happy child emerges!!

Watching this video CAN remind each of us that WE ARE NOT ALONE!

Watch the Video Here

4 Responses to “Very Helpful Video for Parents New to their Transgender Child!!!”

  1. Zie Brown November 16, 2019 at 10:11 pm #

    Thank you so much for posting!

    • transmom January 19, 2020 at 11:34 am #

      You are welcome, Zie!!

  2. Monica Paul November 18, 2019 at 2:48 am #

    Great video! Thank you!

    How do you talk about your child in the historical sense? My daughter is about to start hormone therapy to transition to male, I’m practicing the pronouns & though it is difficult at times, I will continue to get better at it. When I talk about the past do I use he or she? What about pictures that I have around my house of her growing up? Does it make it too hard on him to continue to see pictures as a girl? Does my lesbian daughter (that is married to a female for almost 3 years) now become a straight (transgender) man? I love my child with all of my heart & want to say & do things that give him the most comfort in this transition!

    I am open to any positive advise.

    M’

    Sent from my iPhone

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    • transmom January 19, 2020 at 11:42 am #

      Hi Monica! These are some of the many questions that I also had when my daughter transitioned!!
      There are no rules and no guidebook here: but trust yourself!! It took me awhile to not mess up pronouns and a different spelling of my kid’s name. After time, I began to refer to ANY time in his life with male pronouns….now, my son is so much my son that it would just feel wrong to refer to any part of his life in female terms!!
      And as for the pictures, ask you kid!! Some people want EVERYTHING erased from view because it reminds them of a sad time…my son asked that any pictures of age 12 and up be removed. Easy!
      And it’s funny: my son’s partner (his legal wife) don’t think of themselves as a straight couple- if asked, they would say they are queer…but to the rest of the world? My son is a married man to a cisgendered woman!
      Be open! Ask your son for preferences and how you can respect his identity: what does that look like for him!
      You are an awesome mom!!!!

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