Teaching Honestly

17 Dec

This is a terrific article about how a small school district has managed- despite pressure- to do the right thing: teaching gender openly and honestly. I am proud of our direction in education!


Click on the link below!

Article on Gender

Very Helpful Video for Parents New to their Transgender Child!!!

16 Nov

I loved this honest video (link below)! These open and honest parents of a young adult who transitioned while in college, share their experiences: the difficulties, the challenges, the ups and the downs!

I believe every parent finding their way during this passage with their child (especially those with teenagers and older), can benefit from watching this video! Transitions are NOT easy…and many times our children become frustrated with us along the way.

WE GET TO HAVE OUR OWN PROCESS AND EXPERIENCE as our child transitions! It is always helpful to be reminded that, as parents, it will not necessarily be easy no matter how much we love and support our children!! We need to be ready to experience a myriad of emotions: fear, anger, surprise, fierce devotion, as well as joy when our more confident and happy child emerges!!

Watching this video CAN remind each of us that WE ARE NOT ALONE!

Watch the Video Here

Here’s an Article You May Relate To!

16 Sep

So often it is difficult to find the words for our feelings. As mothers of transgender children, many of us are surprised to find ourselves dealing with issues and concerns that, frankly, we never DREAMED of even considering!

The following is an article written by a mother like us…it is articulate and heart-felt!

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!

Click here to read, A New Son Begets a New Mother: fabulous article


10 Aug

Hello All,

There is currently a rule change being considered which would allow direct

discrimination against transgender people by health care professionals based solely on

their “sincerely held beliefs” that trans people are not actual human beings in need of the

same dignity and respect as every other person. This will affect any trans person who

seeks health care. The rule change is coming directly from our current administration

and would be administered through the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS).


There is a requirement that such policy changes must be put out for a specific period of

time for public comment. You have the right to make a comment, and to tell others

that they can do the same. The time for public comment is coming close to an end (8/13),

so please consider commenting now in order to protect our children and others like



The Fed. site allows comments only up to 5,000 words, so be careful not to go over! IT IS EASY: there is a green comment box on which to click and you write your comments and info before submitting! THANK YOU!!!

click below:

federal register



4 Feb

In a support group to which I belong, someone asked about “rapid-onset gender dysphoria”. One of our parents shared this important information:

This is NOT a real term. Instead, it is meant to sound official and medical. This is being used to scare parents and everyone out there into believing that we are being too quick to in taking teens’ expression of gender seriously.

THIS IS HARMFUL PROPAGANDA! Gender dysphoria is NOT a phase or due to peer pressure!

Please also be aware of terrible propaganda videos from the “American College of Pediatricians” which is a actually a conservative anti-lgbtq hate group that sounds official. It is NOT official! This is NOT the “American Academy of Pediatrics”.

The American Academy of Pediatrics supports and believes in the appropriate treatment for children on the gender non-conforming and transgender spectrum.

Don’t be sucked in and misled! Continue to listen to your children! Follow your heart!


Read this article: Poisonous Lies Used to Discredit Trans People : Click Here

A sign saying 'Trans rights are human rights'

How Awesome is this Support??!!!

30 Jan

LBGTQ CU Boulder flag

The School of Education and the University of Colorado, Boulder, proudly supports the transgender and non-binary community! In the following article, they state,

“We want to state this as clearly and simply as possible: the broad scientific consensus is that gender is not binary. We live in a world with transgender people, and we always have. Governments and others assign a legal sex category at birth, usually based on anatomical characteristics; but this does not change the reality of a spectrum of gender identities. There is simply no other conclusion about the nature of sex and gender that is morally or scientifically valid.”

Read more of this department’s  wonderful efforts! Click here: Transgender Support

Being Trans is NOT a Fad!!!

10 Jan

YOUR CHILD BEING TRANSGENDER IS NOT A RESULT OF THEM RESPONDING TO A FAD!!! This can be a matter of a life well-lived or literally death for some of our children who feel discarded and dismissed. Too many of our children are questioned and doubted when they come to us to disclose what they know: their identity is other that we assume. They are transgender.

Jennifer Finney Boylan’s well written opinion piece in the New York Times is a MUST READ!

She notes, “… if you want your children’s life to be hard, the quickest way to that end is to tell them that their deepest sense of self is nothing but a fad, and that you know them better than they know themselves.”

Please read and pass along! This is incredibly important information!

Click this link to read:

Coming Out as Trans Isn’t a Teenage Fad

“The Truth About Transgender Suicide”

26 Nov

Here’s a topic that we mothers of transgender children (no matter their age) want to be reminded of, much less discuss! Suicide is frightening. And it’s, unfortunately all too real!

When suicide is discussed, we are frequently reminded of the frightening statistic that states that 40% of transgender folks have attempted suicide.  This two year old article does a great job of exposing the WHY behind the scary statistics that haunt us.

The transgender folks that are more likely to consider and attempt suicide are those who feel rejected by their families and those who do not feel supported in their identities.  THIS IS CRITICAL FOR US TO HEAR!! Because it is common that our transgender children and family members face social discrimination in housing, employment, and in access to health care, we need to understand that these lack of protections put our transgender family members at at further risk. Additionally, when transgender individuals do not “pass” and are instead identified as trans, they are more likely to attempt suicide than those that take hormones, have surgery and can behave and be accepted as any other individual in the community.

We need to embrace our children completely- their identities ARE our children! Remember to tell your child that you love and appreciate them- tell them TODAY!!

Important Suicide Information


5 Nov

These are (again) times that are potentially frightening and even more dangerous for our transgender children and family members! Their existence cannot be discounted or erased!! Allowing the current administration to continue unchecked, will do just that! We DESPERATELY NEED representatives that will represent our collective voices!!


Here is the proof that the world needs to heed…This is what our communities need to hear…NOT the small-minded dismissal of our children!!

Over 1,600 scientists condemn Trump transgender proposal!

click hear to read article




A Photographic Tribute to Older Transgender Adults

4 Sep

This NEW BOOK looks amazing!

I love photography, so I really am looking forward to the portraits and interviews with older transgender people in this new book! To Survive on This Shore, by photographer and author Jess T. Dugan and social worker and author Vanessa Fabbre, spent five years traveling to bring us an important narrative that is not often reported upon.

We typically read about young transgender individuals and their challenges coming out. In To Survive on This Shore, we will be introduced to older transgender and gender-variant people living their lives authentically and sharing their feelings about their journeys.

The new book will be in stock from Amazon on September 11, 2018.

Meanwhile, here’s a brief article for you to check out about the book and the authors:

To Survive on This Shore