Archive | Medical RSS feed for this section

Raising Trans* & Gender Expansive Children WITH LOVE, UNDERSTANDING, AND SUPPORT : A FREE EVENT!

28 Jan

 COME TO LISTEN AND LEARN FROM MOTHERS, ADVOCATES, LIFE COACH, AND ADJUNCT PROFESSOR ON GENDER STUDIES ON TOPICS SUCH AS:

*TRANS 101

*PARENTING

*RESOURCES

THURSDAY, FEBRUARY, 15, 2018     6:30-8:30 PM

COMMUNITY UNITED METHODIST CHURCH6652 HEIL AVENUE

HUNTINGTON BEACH, CA

 

THIS IS A FREE EVENT! EVERYONE IS WELCOME! CHILDCARE WILL BE PROVIDED!

RSVP TO : transparentinglife@yahoo.com

Supporting Our Gender Fluid Children 

5 Aug

Recently, a loving and concerned mother wrote in to share her journey while supporting her gender fluid child. My first reaction was one of incompetence: my FTM son identifies as male. I felt that perhaps information I shared or my experiences as a parent with a transgender kid might not be “legitimate” or “enough”.

However,  I realized mothers of transgender children who identify with the binary (the concept of the two traditionally recognized genders; male and female) share insights and experiences not so very different than mothers of children who identify as gender fluid (identify as neither or both female and male and experience a range of femaleness and maleness, with a “flow” between the genders). Mothers of binary and fluid children both have to learn to accept and embrace our children regardless of how they present themselves! We each have to field questions (often very private) about our children from family, friends, and perhaps even strangers. We mothers all may struggle in knowing just how to best support our kids. We may feel disappointed and even grieve the loss of our personal dream for our child. We all worry and fret. The struggle IS real for each of us! 

The message: 

1-To the mother that wrote in, like so many of you, you are doing a GREAT job of supporting your child! You are pushing yourself and finding strength to be an advocate!! Even though you may experience pain along the way, you are trying to wrap your head around your child’s new reality-kudos to you! 

2- It is so important to respect non-binary gender identities, and it sounds like the mom that wrote in completely understands this! For those of you still struggling, Hey! It’s a BIG process to understand a new paradigm; something that is not what you have grown up expecting! You get time to learn to bend. It’s okay not to automatically be on board- but know that your kid needs your love and don’t give up your journey!! 

3- The medical establishment is slowly coming around, but it is true that it may be harder to find professionals who can competently work with non-binary folks. There IS hope though, as the WPATH Standards of Care now recognize non-binary gender identities, and people CAN access medical care (hormone therapy, surgery) as non-binary under the Standards of Care. 

4- What may be most helpful is helping the young adult connect to other non-binary/genderqueer folks, even if it’s just online. There are so many non-binary folks who have accessed hormone therapy, surgery, etc. and it might be nice for your child to get to talk things through with other people, especially if their current doctors don’t “get it.” 

5- My son shared with me that he has friends with non binary gender identities (genderqueer, Two Spirit, etc.) who haven taken hormones for years, stopped taking them, and have no regrets. They continue to be non binary-identified. 

6-The best thing anyone can do is support people in having access to all the information they need to make an informed choice…and keep supporting them no matter what their decisions are down the line!! 
* Here are some resources that may be helpful:

http://darahoffmanfox.com/ask-gender-therapist-can-transition-im-non-binary-genderfluid/ (or you can just link right to the youtube page of the video)
http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/myths-non-binary-transition/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/a-non-binary-perspective-on-top-surgery_us_58d27b27e4b062043ad4ae76

https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/transitioning-while-non-binary/
http://www.teenvogue.com/story/what-is-non-binary-gender

http://www.transequality.org/issues/resources/understanding-non-binary-people-how-to-be-respectful-and-supportive

As always, my best to you as you advocate and continue to demonstrate unconditional love! 

Transgender Kids

26 Jun

I am now drawn to all things “transgender”…books, articles, television features. Here is a  recent
article from the front page of the Los Angeles Times (June 15). One of the doctors mentioned (Dr.Jo Olson) is the medical director of the transgender clinic at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles and the “go to” physician for the children in our monthly parents/teen/children’s support group. For those of you moms with younger children, this may ring true! For others of us with later identifying children, it is just interesting to learn about one type of transition.

http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-transgender-kids-20120615,0,216229.story

 

Link

WPATH

15 Apr

http://www.thegavoice.com/index.php/news/national-news/3497-wpath-ann

WPATH Announces New Standards of Care for Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People

Some key revisions:

• Psychotherapy is no longer a requirement to receive hormones and surgery, although it is suggested.

“It used to be a minimum amount of psychotherapy was needed. An assessment is still required but that can be done by the prescribing hormone provider,” Bockting explained.

• A number of community health centers in the U.S. have developed protocols for providing hormone therapy based an approach known as the Informed Consent Model. These protocols are consistent with version 7 revisions of WPATH’s standards of care.

“The SOC are flexible clinical guidelines; they allow for tailoring of interventions to the needs of the individual receiving services and for tailoring of protocols to the approach and setting in which these services are provided,” Coleman explained.

“Access is more open and acknowledges transgender care is being provided in community health centers. This certainly makes it easier to access hormones,” Bockting added.

• There are now different standards for surgery, as well. For example, a transgender man who wants a hysterectomy no longer has to live one year as a male in order to receive the surgery. Likewise, a transgender woman who wants her testicles removed does not have to live one year as a female.

For people who want genital reconstructive surgery, however, the standards of care recommend living a year in the role of the gender they are transitioning.

• Another major change, Bockting explained, is that the standards “allow for a broader spectrum of identities – they are no longer so binary.”

“There is no one way of being transgender and it doesn’t have to mirror the idea of a change of their sex,” Bockting explained.

“These standards allow for a gender queer person to have breasts removed without ever taking hormones,” he said.

The WPATH conference in Atlanta, along with the Southern Comfort Conference and the conference of the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association, was a joint effort to show the world what is being done in the area of LGBT health.

But, Bockting added, the new WPATH standards of care also show the tremendous effort that transgender people themselves are doing to ensure their access to healthcare.

“Oftentimes the standards of care were perceived as a barrier even though they were meant as access to care for hormone therapy and surgery,” he said.

“The new standards showcase the important role [transsexual, transgender, and gender nonconforming people] have played in changing the landscape of transgender health in the U.S.,” Bockting added.